Frank tells Rita that “when you belong with someone, you don’t think they’re perfect.” Do you agree with this assessment?
When you truly love someone, you see them as a whole person, flaws and all. You see them clearly and love them because of everything they are. I do agree that you don’t believe they are perfect, because that would be infatuation, not love. Only love sees all and commits anyway.
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No one is perfect. We all have our problems. If you think your person is perfect that is not a real relationship.
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Belonging to someone, overlooks imperfections. The saying “love is blind” sort of sums this up. When one loves someone there is acceptance of the complete human being without judgement. No one is perfect in all ways.
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Well I’d probably agree but are we looking for perfection in a relationship? Perfection I think is impossible. I think I’d be more inclined to have liked Frank a bit more if he had said something like he was a little less cerebral about relationships
Yes I agree. There is no such thing as perfection in a true love relationship.
Yes, because she had put Frank on a pedestal & idolized the author, not the man. No one can live up to such high expectations and she wasn’t realistic about their relationship. He had to make her understand why they didn’t have a future together, other than friendship.
Realizing that the person you belong to is not perfect is acknowledging that you are not perfect either…and that allows the couple to be themselves, the food, the bad and the ugly. It’s accepting the other and loving and forgiving them even when they make mistakes. I think that was what Frank was alluding too.
Yes, absolutely. When you believe someone to be perfect, you will eventually be disappointed. You don’t do the person any favors by putting them on that pedestal.
I agree - it’s only real life if we acknowledge that none of us is perfect.
No one should have the burden of expected perfection placed upon him/her – irrespective of the “belonging” issue.
At times I found Frank to be overly pompous and self absorbed. That being said, he was also looking for a way to end things with Rita, and this assessment seems to fit her view of him. However, I did not really see Rita as such a simple character as she often seemed to be portrayed. I thought she had grand plans for Frank and I think he was beginning to suspect that she was leading him down a path he did not want to tread. My thoughts are she wanted not just her writings published , but perhaps a ring on her finger to go along with a publishig contract and Frank fit that bill.
When Rita idolized Frank as perfect, her relationship with him was never going to work. Frank realized his own limitations, but maybe not Rita’s. He never saw her clearly like he did with Lucy. The author showed the reasons for Frank’s reactions to people due to his early family life. I was hopeful that the author would let Frank see both women clearly which she did. Kept me in suspense, wanting the right resolution.
Yes! If you love someone, you see it all and love them anyway. And no one wants a perfect person..how would you ever live up to that or be a partner. Nope give me the flawed!
Agree with Paula no one is perfect. They may be a “perfect match” but perfection has never been a human characteristic. To be fair, the idea of perfection can allow for traits, etc. that seem imperfect to others (my mother comes to mind—she believed we kids were perfect). But Rita worshipped Frank and that’s a big difference and a serious red flag.
This is a very weird statement; I assume it means you overlook any flaws, but I don’t see why anyone would still not be assessing if the relationship will work.
I totally agree. Sometimes the “imperfections” make the connection stronger, more durable. Perfection can be dry, insincere, window dressing.
I used to date a guy who was an alcoholic addict. I saw these flaws, but didn’t care because i was in love. Then he started emotionally abusing me. It took one act of bravery to get away and keep away.
So yes, i think love is blind. But sometimes there’s a reason.
Kat
I think Frank is right: When you love someone, you can accept that they have flaws and quirks and aren’t perfect. But they are loveable, and that’s what is important.