Lottie finds the way funerals end to be depressing. “Everyone walks out and continues with their day as if nothing happened. That seems sadder than the death.” (p. 140). Do you feel her take on funerals and death is correct? What’s your opinion about the rite?
I wouldn’t think that would matter to her with everything she does.
There’s no “correct” but rather as one ages we think about funerals and death in our own way. Just this week two people who I knew in my lifespan died. I wasn’t close but knew them at different stages and ages. I thought- these two are no longer on this earth this week. They’re journeying beyond. I wished them a safe passage. I feel sorrow and sadness but not grief. I’ll feel differently when a dearest departs.
I think it depends on how the person deals with grief. The process of the funeral can help some and for others it may not but culturally is expected. Life going on does not mean the person is forgotten or that people are not grieving their loss.
I had the same experience this week. A good friend died and I feel sad, but was not crushed like I was when my brother died. Funerals are a personal choice..no clear right or wrong.