Dory tells Becca that “time don’t heal old wounds.” Do you believe this is true?
Time does not heal old wounds completely but it makes them more tolerable. After an 11 year marriage my husband and I divorced. Now at just turning 77 three days ago I realize I am now thinking more about the past. Wish I could dwell on the good, as there was a lot of good, instead of the not so good. I do not want to say bad!!
I think it depends on the type of wounds, how young a person was and how many years have passed. A wound can be the perception that you were treated badly in school and that can lessen with age and time. However, a wound of neglect or abuse is never forgotten. The scars remain deep inside.
I don’t think it is time that heals wounds, but rather intentional dealing with the hurt - whether through counseling or simply engaging the person who hurt you in conversation and understanding.
Saying time heals is simply ignorning the issue and hoping it eventually goes away or is forgotten.
I don’t really think that time heals old wounds. However, I think time may affect the way the wound feels and how it impacts you. That is what I have experienced.
Absolutely. Some wounds are too deep to be healed. Losing a child under any circumstances are one of those types of wounds. You may move on, but your life is changed forever.
I agree! Time doesn’t heal old wounds. I’m in my mid-70s and find that I spend more time revisiting old wounds and how I’ve handled them. I also revisit wounds I’ve inflicted on others even if I didn’t know it at the time. What time gives us is the opportunity to revisit with a different perspective.
I think time does heal some wounds, but serious wounds may leave scars that change a person forever. Is that wound really healed then? I don’t think so.
I think Dory is correct in her statement about “time not healing old wounds”. I think when we deal with old wounds we learn to accept them for what they are and move forward. Possibly we learn from these wounds and protect ourselves from further hurt or heartbreak..
I think it depends on how deep the wounds run. In some cases, the best you can hope for is that the injuries don’t hurt as much - the pain fades over time.
I agree, i dont think time heals old wounds but i do think time can help scab over the wounds so they arent as open and raw.
I don’t think that time heals all wounds, but it does dull the pain and allows one to reflect on the wound. I agree with other readers, as we get older, we reflect on the wounds we had, and those we gave others. In most cases, however, we cannot help to heal them
Everything is relative depending on the wound. I am sure diminishes some pain but I doubt old wounds are healed completely. Perhaps some people can become bitter and resentful over time and not heal.
I think some wounds become scars that stay with you forever. In time, those scars don’t occupy the same amount of mental space they did when the wound was fresh, but they definitely can stay with you forever!