Freya faces one of the hardest challenges in the book. Would you have made the same decision she did? If not, why?
Freya’s story was the hardest for me. As a mother I cannot even imagine the pain. I would not have made the same decision as she did in the end of the book. One day her daughter would die, hopefully after a long life. Hopefully they would one day meet in Heaven.
Yes, I would have made the same decision. Her daughter was loved and well cared for. There was no way that her daughter or husband would know she was lingering around, since it was impossible for them to communicate. The suggestion that her husband will probably develop a relationship with another woman, who might become the baby’s step mom, rang true. It is hard to imagine the incredible loneliness and prolonged grief that would have been involved in staying there, as a wordless ghost.
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Yes I would have made the same decision. Seeing my child and not being able to hold her or interact in any way would be extremely frustrating. The thought of someone new acting as her mother would have been especially difficult. I wouldn’t stay.
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I also would have made the same decisions. To be trapped in a forever in a present even after all your loved ones are gone would be torture—even more so than seeing them move on without you
I feel like I have definitely gone back to see my baby. I’m not sure I would have opted to stay knowing I would be stuck there though!
I definitely agree with Paula. Freya’s story was heart wrenching. As a mom you would want to stay and protect your child. But when you can’t change anything surrounding your child, I’m not sure you would put yourself in a good situation by staying. In the end, love won out…even if it was short lived!
I think I would have made the same decision as Freya. It would have been very difficult to move on without knowing what would happen to the child. The thought of leaving a baby behind without knowing if it would be okay or who might be there to care for it would be incredibly hard. A baby is so completely helpless that I feel I would need that reassurance before being able to let go.
I wasn’t surprised that Freya responded the way she did and chose to stay given how long it took for her to learn the full story of what happened when her daughter was born. Even if I were in Freya’s shoes, I don’t think I would have stayed for all the reasons that everyone else already stated.
In my opinion, Freya made the right decision not to stay. Callum’s words rang true and I was happy she listened to him. I don’t think I would have gone back in the first place and risk being stuck there.
Freya had two difficult decisions, first to go back to see her child, that would have been a no-brained. Second, she chose to be reincarnated along with Callum, thus erasing all memory of her daughter. The second choice would have been more difficult for me.
Yes I believe she made the right decision. The relationship she developed help her with her decision.
That’s an interesting question. A mother would want to go back to see how her child was. At the same time, the unknown would be very scary.
As a mother of two children, I cannot imagine the pain Freya felt. I would have made the same exact decision. She needed to know that her daughter was well, and being cared for by its father and grandmother. Imagine out difficult it would be to remain there as a wordless ghost. What a lonely life she would lead and so I applaud her for choosing reincarnation with Callum.
I agree with everyone’s comments. I would have made the same decision as Freya. My husband died of a brief unexpected illness 3.5 years ago. We have 2 teenage sons. If I were the one who died, I would want to go back and see my kids and husband but it would be a sad trap to stay instead of going on to Heaven to be with Jesus. I think eventually Freya would feel forgotten as she watched everyone building a new life and moving forward without her.